The gentle power of highly sensitive people | Elena Herdieckerhoff | TEDxIHEParis

Elena is a mentor for highly sensitive and empathic entrepreneurs. She explains why we need to change the prevalent cultural narrative around highly sensitive people.
Elena Herdieckerhoff, Founder & CEO of Entreprincess, is a mentor for highly sensitive and empathic entrepreneurs. In her TEDx talk, she explains why we need to change the prevalent cultural narrative around highly sensitive people. As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) herself, she has made it her mission to empower other HSP entrepreneurs to turn their sensitivity into their greatest business asset. She is an award-winning serial entrepreneur, including having built a highly acclaimed international luxury skincare brand, and has graduated from the Sorbonne (DEUG), University College London (B.A.) and the London School of Economics (MSc). She is passionate about entrepreneurship, French literature, organic living, Reiki and spirituality!
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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  • just em
    just em2 jam yang lalu

    I've been told I've been 'bipolar not classified' my entire life, and I wouldn't care if I was, but I just dont feel that's right. It is emotionally & physically EXHAUSTING trying different therapists or psychiatrists and having to retell your story over and over-at this point i have just given up. I have now become agoraphobic for a few years, so a 0% chance at finding help. I'm 33. This entire Ted talk made me cry because I have never felt more seen. I am not kidding, I AM ALONE AF OUT HERE

  • Clare Kelsey
    Clare Kelsey9 jam yang lalu

    I opened this vid bcuz of it's title which suggests that it would present the positive strong side of being an HSP, give us something to hold onto and remember when being so rejected, made fun of, called Princess and the Pea, told to stop being what we truly are. And this video did NONE of that...did nothing but reinforce that we will be rejected and made fun of even by our own parents for being so sensitive. Indeed this HSP continually did the same thing as society does - she engendered laughter laughter from the audience by telling anecdotes of highly sensitive behavior like hearing dripping faucet 2 floors down or reading Chinese menu for an hour. SHE DID here exactly what her tormentors did to her and which she now, very dysfunctionally, laughs at. AND she encouraged the audience to do the same. SHE shared no hidden strengths of being an HSP. Every time she said a sentence like "but HSPs have important strengths" she followed it with making fun of HSPs with Chinese Menu Syndrome. Well shame on her and shame on whoever came up with this title.

  • Sourav biswas
    Sourav biswasHari Yang lalu

    Is it okay to supress sensitivity or cover up with Roughness??

  • Ashley Eakman
    Ashley EakmanHari Yang lalu

    I am a highly sensitive person. It's both a gift and a curse

  • e-kicks ASMR
    e-kicks ASMRHari Yang lalu

    The HSP are the tipe who enjoy ASRM! 🥰✨

  • Molly Statts
    Molly StattsHari Yang lalu

    Everything makes me cry. The smallest things make me cry. It annoys my boyfriend sooo much and he always gets mad when I cry. He says “I’m crying for no reason” or “wow are you really crying over that” I just want him to understand that those are just my emotions and it actually makes me cry more when he gets mad over it so I’m not longer just crying over the original thing so you can assume I’m an emotional mess by the end of the night. I wish he would love me and be there for me when I’m emotional. If only he realized how much better it would be if he just supported me or talked to me instead of getting mad and making it worse.

  • Gülenay Yıldırım
    Gülenay Yıldırım2 hari yang lalu

    It’s deeply conservation for me and thank you supporting feelings 🌼

  • ciaran
    ciaran2 hari yang lalu

    What's the percentage of hsps who have mental illness. Is it higher than the general population

  • Deborah Kazenelson
    Deborah Kazenelson2 hari yang lalu

    One of the worst things someone can say to me is that I'm "too sensitive" -- this is a great talk - very enlightening.

  • Johan Bos
    Johan Bos3 hari yang lalu

    This was like coming home to myself for the first time in years

  • o.g Gonzalez
    o.g Gonzalez3 hari yang lalu

    😀😂🤭🤔😏😬😔🥵🤯🤠🥳🤓🧐😕😳🥺😥😢😭😱😱😞😓😩😫🥱😤😡😠🤬🙈🤖😮😰😎

  • BlackMagnolia
    BlackMagnolia4 hari yang lalu

    Being a highly sensitive person makes you feel like you're an alien on the wrong planet

  • galactichealer *******
    galactichealer *******5 hari yang lalu

    Being an empath I totally resonate with this!

  • bluedragonfly
    bluedragonfly5 hari yang lalu

    Nicely said

  • Ken Burkham
    Ken Burkham6 hari yang lalu

    i am . natalie weiss

  • Charity Richardson
    Charity Richardson7 hari yang lalu

    My sensitivity is my superpower! 💪

  • Margo Gay
    Margo Gay7 hari yang lalu

    From one HSP to another - that was wonderful! Beautiful message. Thank you! Blessings.

  • Shelley Thompson
    Shelley Thompson8 hari yang lalu

    I read the book she mentioned years ago and thought well, that explains a lot about me. I am 70 now.

  • Piotr Wydra
    Piotr Wydra8 hari yang lalu

    Good for her, cross on the road!

  • Simple Truths
    Simple Truths9 hari yang lalu

    Oh my gosh- I needed to hear this talk. I fit this mold from edge to edge. To put understanding to the noise and pain that comes my way (unknowingly) from those around me can be a deep challenge to my emotional health; to hear every noise in the house and yard around the clock; to be labeled and criticized for being ‘not tough enough’ or too sensitive, there is a relief in knowing that that there are others that deal with the same characteristics. Sigh of Relief :-). I can care deeply about others and be okay with that instead of reactive to the label over caring.

  • Karoliina kävi täällä
    Karoliina kävi täällä9 hari yang lalu

    I don't know about you but to me it sounds a lot like she is actually talking about autistic people.

  • bm 6
    bm 69 hari yang lalu

    i am looking for a friend whole life, i believe that with finding out about hsp, i found a family, a comunnity... not a small one! holy s...! my first public comment 💪😅

  • Becky Walls
    Becky Walls10 hari yang lalu

    Jewel sings,"I'm sensitive and I'd like to stay that way ..."

  • Shaiane O Hara
    Shaiane O Hara10 hari yang lalu

    I’m pretty gentle with my voice when I talk to people but when I get upset I lose my cool and also I don’t like l loudness except for calming music Or country music because those are my favourite things but I’m also an introvert because I’m very quiet and strategic and and I love analyzing cartoons or art because it’s very relaxing to me when I’m relaxed I just go in my room and watch cartoons and I spend time just relaxing.☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • Katie Franklin
    Katie Franklin10 hari yang lalu

    This changed my life I was in one of the worst places “wondering what is so wrong with me” then I learned im a highly sensitive person and it has given me my life back 💙💙💙

  • dearjem
    dearjem12 hari yang lalu

    There was a police scene across my street the other day and I saw the woman who had seemed to be the victim of the accident crying, sobbing, gesturing her distress, putting her hand over her mouth, hyperventilating etc. And although I was looking from the opposite of the street behind my window it’s like I could feel what she was feeling - I started to feel sad and teared up and like I wanted to empathise with her and give her a hug. Didn’t know what the situation was about and had never seen her before in my life- but feeling her emotions was enough to know. 💟

  • ୨୧Peach୨୧
    ୨୧Peach୨୧12 hari yang lalu

    I'm kinda upset becuase sometimes sensitive and highly sensitive people Are not really tested right. I'm sensitive and I've been told to stop being so sensitive and stop using sensitivity as a excuse but yet they understand that I'm really sensitive but yet say those things and so does my mom. I see on the internet people are sensitive and they get attacked for taking someone's honest opinion srsly..what do you expect from sensitive people?? I hate how sensitive and HPS are not treated like they have feelings. Everyone's feelings get hurt once in a while but that doesn't mean you have to be rude to them about it. People need to be understanding and learn that deeply sensitive people will take things srsly.

  • Susie G
    Susie G14 hari yang lalu

    This speech is so inspiring. just wow

  • Poems from the forgotten gardens
    Poems from the forgotten gardens14 hari yang lalu

    But I love horror movies, but I am untune with other people's feelings, what am I?

  • Cataquacky
    Cataquacky14 hari yang lalu

    I have 2 questions for her. 1) If she took the Meyer-Briggs test, would she be an INFJ? That's what I am and I consider myself HSP. 2) Are HSPs more likely to have ADHD/ADD? My counselor has been working with me for ADD but she also said I may get distracted so easily in noisy, busy environments because I am an HSP.

  • Patty Beck
    Patty Beck15 hari yang lalu

    I am 65 and just learned that I am a HSP. I Don’t feel so odd now.

  • Aim Cat
    Aim Cat15 hari yang lalu

    first time ever coming across something like this at 25...first time I’ve felt completely understood and not seen as someone with a “defect”......I couldn’t stop crying (tears of joy and sadness) watching this video...I am so grateful to have come across this and to be learning and understanding more of this and myself. I am finally eager and happy to watch myself unfold and grow....before I felt a sudden burden by just living in this world bc I really felt like something was wrong with me and I would go endless months trying to tear my heart and head apart trying to find a way to be less...me? I’ve always had trouble and little to no success on friendships and relationships and have always felt like I’m the one to blame, that it’s me who causes the problems and so on. I can finally learn to let that thought go, along with so many other ingrained thoughts that have convinced me to believe that I am “too much”....sigh Is there an app to talk to other HSPs? If so, PLS LET ME KNOW. I’ve always felt so odd and that I don’t fit into conversations and occasions...that I’ve ended many friendships and relationships bc of it. Thank you, to all.

  • Clare Woodward
    Clare Woodward15 hari yang lalu

    👋 hsp here. And wept with relief (!) to hear all of this. Thanks for the perks! Greatly appreciated!

  • Nivedita Talukdar
    Nivedita Talukdar16 hari yang lalu

    I am a little too late but thank you so much for addressing this.

  • Taylor Taylor
    Taylor Taylor16 hari yang lalu

    She is the cat’s meow 😋

  • KT Betancourt
    KT Betancourt17 hari yang lalu

    Great talk

  • vedangi sharma
    vedangi sharma18 hari yang lalu

    She said everything all inside my heart and mind.

  • Thikhamphorn Gooffy
    Thikhamphorn Gooffy18 hari yang lalu

    She is truly HSP, her speech was very delicate and beautiful, and i can pick up every feelings that she delivered. I cry dude 😭🤣

  • nathan gardner
    nathan gardner18 hari yang lalu

    10:40 yes at restaurants i always have go to meals that my eyes lock on or that i’ll just know. i definitely get overwhelmed with options, choices, why? feeling like any choice is the the wrong choice, even no choice. at stores when i get snacks i have a hard time. at restaurants i’m ready before anyone but at the store i can stand in the isles for a very long time. and as i’m writing this to me i feel like it’s cause i have so many options, good options, so many choices to choose from. i get overwhelmed like a kid in a candy store. it only feels bad when it’s made bad

  • Joan Burbank
    Joan Burbank19 hari yang lalu

    I’m an HSP, I’ve found I’m better off as a single person unattached. I don’t cry anymore. By staying single I’m emotionally balanced and spiritually grounded and at peace with my self and my life. I have a few close people in my world and that is enough. I feel like I’m floating in clear clean water with the bright sun all around me. Life is sweet! Intimate relationships are too much work and don’t offer any benefit. I’m 64, happy and healthy.

  • MB
    MB19 hari yang lalu

    That’s me

  • Uncle Mike
    Uncle Mike20 hari yang lalu

    So cute

  • Uncle Mike
    Uncle Mike20 hari yang lalu

    You,r so sweet

  • Mh258 By285
    Mh258 By28520 hari yang lalu

    Sounds like me... Men are highly sensitive, so true.

  • Kalanthe Cole
    Kalanthe Cole20 hari yang lalu

    It took me much longer than I like to admit to realize that everyone around me wasn't as sensitive and empathetic as I am.

  • Tracy
    Tracy20 hari yang lalu

    They are gods people!! No just kidding! We are all gods children! And we all are very loved. It’s very hard yes I know! This touched deeply! Thank you for making! God bless !! May one day we rise!

  • Tracy

    Tracy

    20 hari yang lalu

    I agree these traits need to be thought! I like allowing all personality gifts and using them for good! Could you imagine...... We could have World Peace!

  • Bts Sharma
    Bts Sharma21 hari yang lalu

    We regulate the hot headed temp of world and people be like you have to suffer because of this.. We try to help others they take us as burden Be understand them but they dont understand us But its who we are ...and we are proud to be a HSP❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • Mary Ellen DeLong
    Mary Ellen DeLong21 hari yang lalu

    My mom often told me when I was growing up that I was too sensitive. As I get older, I appreciate my gift of sensitivity. It does come with challenges because I tend to see the good in people, rather than their negative side. I am now trying to learn to see the entire person, not just the positive side. Everyone has good and bad.

  • Allan Sipendi
    Allan Sipendi22 hari yang lalu

    Careful “highly insensitive” 😂😂

  • Idante Terra
    Idante Terra22 hari yang lalu

    La primera vez que oigo hablar de las personas sensibles. ¡No tienen sitio en la sociedad! ¡son los grandes perdedores! Tienen que vivir aislados.

  • 占卜547
    占卜54722 hari yang lalu

    Love this! I remember when i was 4 yrs old i saw a blind beggar on a European Street and i felt his pain so strongly to the point that i cried the whole night and the next day i forced my parents to go back to the place and give him enough money for the coming months

  • Stacey
    Stacey24 hari yang lalu

    I thought at age 4 that before the trees were chopped down to clear land ....the men ...OF COURSE GENTLY RELOCATED EACH BIRD NEST HOLDING EGGS! My step father...a Builder informed me that nobody does that...the trees are just knocked down even ones holding nests of eggs in spring My heart was crushed my head spun I couldn't understand how anyone could do such a thing!!!! I said " dad please they need to wait for the babies to hatch and fly ! My mom had to spend several nights up late with me as I cried My grandmother said one afternoon How is she going to get through life if she's this sensitive!? I felt different than everyone else I attacked a boy in school that was going to pull the wings off a small butterfly So...on I went to grow up and I cried a lot in my 20's I have become decensatised more But it has not been easy I become drained easily when I'm out in society The energies I feel affect me I've learned to block out a lot and to ground myself and settle my own energy again Not be pulled in so many directions Thank you for this Ted Talk

  • Tracy Butler
    Tracy Butler24 hari yang lalu

    I have been accused of being too sensitive and taking everything to heart. I would love to turn my sensitivity into a successful business.

  • Luis Lobos
    Luis Lobos25 hari yang lalu

    Amo a las personas sensibles... en lo personal considero que son mucho más humanas que cualquier otra persona llamadas normales. Las personas sensibles nos enseñan a ser empaticos con todos los demás.... Yo por ejemplo soy sensible como una hoja de acero inoxidable... 🤗

  • Deborah Meyers
    Deborah Meyers25 hari yang lalu

    Thank you for explaining about HSP Beautifully explained 🙌

  • Amanda
    Amanda25 hari yang lalu

    Omg I went through the same thing after seeing Jaws!! I remember jumping out of my pool in a panic thinking there was a shark in it 😭😂

  • Alber. A
    Alber. A26 hari yang lalu

    “Highly sensitive people”... nice euphemism 👌🏻

  • Alber. A

    Alber. A

    26 hari yang lalu

    When “sensitivity” becomes “intolerance”, then no good

  • Chaar Manel
    Chaar Manel26 hari yang lalu

    This is definitely one of the best Tedx Talks I ever saw !

  • BESOY
    BESOY26 hari yang lalu

    I like the comment section of this video🙏❤️

  • Susan Quenzer
    Susan Quenzer26 hari yang lalu

    Thank You, Elena Herdieckerhoff... You shared what I have felt, my whole life!

  • Gigí
    Gigí26 hari yang lalu

    this was so beautiful, it made me cry, thanks

  • K J
    K J26 hari yang lalu

    HSPs are hyper-aware, empathetic, and discerning. These are strengths and virtues.

  • CN Dias
    CN Dias27 hari yang lalu

    I'd say highly sensitive people have the ability to experience life through a different depth of awareness. If we could ever notice that we are standing in a place as the absorver, we could say we are not the wolf, neither the elbow of steel, although we could put ourselves in those places, see and feel more than they could be aware of. It's an ability, it doesn't make a person weaker, in fact it's the opposite of that. It just can be very challenging and disappointing when we expected people to see through our depths and they don't share the same awareness

  • Joe Kavanagh
    Joe Kavanagh27 hari yang lalu

    She is beautiful inside and out,and she can talk too.When God made her he should have duplicated the recipe and saved us a lot of headache and suffering down here below! If I ever happen to meet The Creator I'm going to give him a piece of my mind on this subject and He's gonna have some explainin' to do !

  • Jennny Smithh
    Jennny Smithh28 hari yang lalu

    This really rings a bell 🤔 There's not much if any help in my area for this type of thing, I have learned to live with a lot and I do have to tell myself everyday don't think about those past things because I'd be a an absolute mess all day every day from over thinking everything, This video has given me a lot to think about 😊

  • margasa
    margasa28 hari yang lalu

    Don't tell me I'm a dreamer and don't kill me!

  • Elizabeth L
    Elizabeth L28 hari yang lalu

    I wonder how many HSP are blood type A. High cortisol.

  • Zee T
    Zee T29 hari yang lalu

    Well said. It’s true that we all are on the spectrum of emotional sensitivity. The point is living a life that we value by accepting and honoring our internal processes (feelings and thoughts) while acting based on our values. If we put the avoidance of undesired emotions and thoughts at the center, we end up living a life that we don’t care about or value and that will bring us more undesired emotional experiences. However, if we want to live a vibrant and valued life, we feel our feelings and observe our thoughts yet make sure our ACTIONS are toward creating that life. Remember that living the life we desire does not require that we get rid of our undesired thoughts and feelings. Just be willing to feel the discomfort at the service of a life you care about. Be willing to stand in the storm.

  • Omi Love
    Omi LoveBulan Yang lalu

    OMG! This is ME!!!! its not funny at all sometimes, almost everything She is saying is so TRUE, the traveling, the bed OMG! the Movies, I stop watching scary movies about 20 yrs ago!!!!! hehe

  • millieo
    millieoBulan Yang lalu

    Excellent.

  • Zabi Spanta
    Zabi SpantaBulan Yang lalu

    I say as a hsp, its not a flaw, its a extraordinary skill, in other word, its a rare key qualification to deeply monitor, understand and experience things . Beside the fact I as a hsp can recognize subliminal thoughts and feelings of others towards me. I have a warmer heart, when I see the old women and men who walk with difficulties, live alone and have financial problems my heart and the heart of the universe cry. Therefore I say gratitude to universe that I am here and help my old Mother.

  • emre poyraz
    emre poyrazBulan Yang lalu

    "born to be mild". I can hear that song in my head :)

  • Kajal Jain
    Kajal JainBulan Yang lalu

    My friend is exactly what she describes . How can I help him ? It is getting tough to change as per him . It's like I am hitting my head on wall again n again trying to explain him what he is doing .

  • Sarimae23
    Sarimae23Bulan Yang lalu

    I disagree strongly. This is exactly what SJW defines : "We are digfferent, i feel offended because i am so sensitive" Sorry, nope.. go away

  • Elsa Anna
    Elsa AnnaBulan Yang lalu

    Seriously I thought I was the only one,happy to see there are people like me wooaahhh!

  • McKenna
    McKennaBulan Yang lalu

    I really really needed this. Thank you for your inspiring words ❤

  • Aloha Ke Akua
    Aloha Ke AkuaBulan Yang lalu

    GOD BLESS YOU ALL BEAUTIFUL HSP PEOPLE WORLDWIDE, AND IN THIS COMMENTS. ALL HUMANS ON EARTH SHOULD BE TAUGHT IN SCHOOL, IN FAMILIES, IN SOCIETY TO BE UNIFIED, BALANCED IN THEIR LEFT + RIGHT PARTS OF THE BRAIN. HOOPONOPONO, DEEP LISTENING ,ALOHA IS THE MEDICINE FOR THE WORLD

  • sugitha subbaiah
    sugitha subbaiahBulan Yang lalu

    Love to hear your speech. Thank you for taking this effort to make the world understand HSPs like me. 👏👏👏🙌

  • Micah J Farmer
    Micah J FarmerBulan Yang lalu

    I finally got explained to me what I’ve been trying to figure out for 20 years! Thank you for helping my life make sense

  • Stewart Theriault
    Stewart TheriaultBulan Yang lalu

    The annoying expansion putatively live because oval progressively peep atop a oafish need. interesting, wicked flame

  • Cambridge Gal
    Cambridge GalBulan Yang lalu

    I hope those who aren’t sensitive people watch this, so they learn how to stop suppressing the sensitive ones around them😊

  • Christina Narendra
    Christina NarendraBulan Yang lalu

    Nice speech. I'm an HSP too. But I don't think non-HSPs care about the things we do, quite frankly.

  • Karina RB
    Karina RBBulan Yang lalu

    Excellent TED!

  • calvin calvin
    calvin calvinBulan Yang lalu

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  • Nicole Wohlmann
    Nicole WohlmannBulan Yang lalu

    ❤💫✌

  • Alma Carey
    Alma CareyBulan Yang lalu

    It's a component of psychic perception.

  • kathy zwilling
    kathy zwillingBulan Yang lalu

    The eminent stitch fortunately file because puma curiously roll beneath a learned teacher. chubby, disturbed danger

  • Tama
    TamaBulan Yang lalu

    ありがとう😭Thank you so much

  • Gloria Kurkowski
    Gloria KurkowskiBulan Yang lalu

    Been subjected to abuse, rejection and abandoned due to this gift. Life is lonely because of others labels. Diagnosed as ill due to my deep caring and medicated for many years. I feel this is difficult life.

  • J P
    J PBulan Yang lalu

    So much courage to be on stage and share.. thank you 🙏 ❤️

  • Mystical Dreams
    Mystical DreamsBulan Yang lalu

    When I was a patient in ICU I felt so much heaviness from the strong medication as well as the people who were treated there and some who had passed on to the spirit realm. I had high anxiety not just only from my head injury, but from the energy of my surroundings. I kept calm as I explained to dr's and Psychiatrist what I was feeling. I didn't want them to think I was on the verge of suicide or going crazy. I didn't mention my sensitive abilities. I feared them overdosing me with drugs. I explained to them I was overwhelmingly stressed with college Algebra assignments to the point I hardly slept. I was too tired to the point that I hit my head twice on the corner edge of the table. My first stay in the hospital a blood clot was removed. I didn't expect this second time collapse and I was frightened from waking up in a strange room 3 hours away from home. I am also sensitive to noise and people arguing. Now that I am back home from the hospital I isolate myself in my quiet room.

  • Brianna - The Simply Fit Life
    Brianna - The Simply Fit LifeBulan Yang lalu

    I feel li ke I understand myself much better now.

  • S B
    S BBulan Yang lalu

    I laugh 'til I cry, I cry 'til I collapse, I love harder and will fight for my loved ones like some spiritual warrior ... after 49 years I have finally embraced my empathic nature and stopped hiding it or pretending it wasn't a part of me. And yeah I know when you are lying to me so don't bother...

  • Nat524Ricci
    Nat524RicciBulan Yang lalu

    Love it. All so true! I have never fit into this society or been able to find success within my career. But now, at age 33, I don’t feel so lost anymore. I feel proud of my not fitting into this society. And I would not want to fit into the current expectations of today’s society. Thank you for sharing this wisdom! And yes, my intuition is so solid and I rely on it for everything. I used to doubt myself but I’ve since learned to trust that inner voice 💜

  • Shabana Riaz
    Shabana RiazBulan Yang lalu

    very informative video, on the topic of " Sensitive people".

  • Emma McKenzie
    Emma McKenzieBulan Yang lalu

    Oh my god I couldn't pee after jaws

  • Variedades Angrafael
    Variedades AngrafaelBulan Yang lalu

    Le admiro y respeto mucho! Gracias por su charla!!! :)

  • Sene Xu
    Sene XuBulan Yang lalu

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  • Caterina Tubii
    Caterina TubiiBulan Yang lalu

    *The way I feel extremely fitting to what she describes*

  • Charod Harris
    Charod HarrisBulan Yang lalu

    I’m crying listening to this because this is the life I’ve been living and have felt ashamed to live that way! This makes me feel not alone!

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